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Am I Aromantic Assessment Calculator
A self-reflection tool to explore your romantic orientation
Important Disclaimer: This is a self-reflection tool, not a diagnostic test. Only you can determine your romantic orientation. This assessment is meant to help you explore your feelings and experiences in a supportive way.
Assessment Questions
1. Do you develop crushes easily?
2. Someone just flirted with you. What's your initial reaction?
3. Which quote do you vibe with the most?
4. Can you see yourself flirting with someone?
5. How much do you identify with romantic stories? (1 = not likely, 10 = very likely)
6. Do you get butterflies around your crush?
7. Are romantic relationships a priority to you?
8. What type of relationship really appeals to you?
9. Are you interested in having a romantic partner?
10. Does the idea of being single make you nervous?
11. Are you cool with kissing someone?
12. Does 'love at first sight' make sense to you?
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Understanding Aromanticism
Aromantic (Aro) individuals typically don't experience romantic attraction and may not be interested in romantic relationships.
Aromanticism is part of the LGBTQIA+ community and is represented by the "A" in the acronym.
There are many identities on the aromantic spectrum, including greyromantic, demiromantic, and more.
Remember
Aromanticism is different from asexuality
Your identity is valid however you experience attraction
You can still have fulfilling relationships
Queer-platonic relationships (QPRs) are an option
All About Aromanticism
Aromanticism vs. Asexuality
- •Aromanticism involves a lack of romantic attraction
- •Asexuality involves a lack of sexual attraction
- •Aro individuals can still find people sexually attractive
- •Both identities exist on a spectrum
- •Only about 25% of aro people also identify as ace
The Aromantic Spectrum
Relationship Tips for Aro Individuals
💬 Set Boundaries
Be clear about what you're comfortable with. Let potential partners know your expectations so everyone stays on the same page.
🤝 Try QPRs
Queer-platonic relationships offer intimacy without traditional romantic expectations. They're inclusive and customizable to your needs.
✨ Be Yourself
Ignore societal expectations about romance. What matters is being true to yourself and finding people who support you.
Support Resources
If you're exploring your aromantic identity, these resources can provide additional information and support:
AUREA (Aromantic-spectrum Union for Recognition, Education, and Advocacy)
International advocacy organization for aromantic-spectrum individuals
Visit Website →r/aromantic on Reddit
Community forum for aromantic individuals to share experiences
Visit Community →Frequently Asked Questions
What does it mean to be aromantic?
Being aromantic means you typically don't experience romantic attraction to others. This doesn't mean you can't form deep, meaningful relationships—it just means those relationships may not include romantic feelings. Aromanticism is a valid sexual orientation.
Can aromantic people fall in love?
Aromantic individuals typically don't experience romantic love in the traditional sense. However, they can experience other types of love, such as platonic love, familial love, and aesthetic attraction. Some people on the aromantic spectrum may experience romantic attraction rarely or only under specific circumstances.
Is aromanticism the same as being asexual?
No, they're different. Aromanticism relates to romantic attraction, while asexuality relates to sexual attraction. You can be aromantic and not asexual (experiencing sexual attraction but not romantic attraction), or you can be both aromantic and asexual. Each identity is independent.
Can aromantic people be in relationships?
Yes! Aromantic people can have fulfilling relationships. Some may choose queer-platonic relationships (QPRs), which offer intimacy and commitment without romantic expectations. Others may prefer friendships, or they may be comfortable in relationships that include romantic elements even if they don't experience romantic attraction themselves.
How do I know if I'm aromantic?
Only you can determine your romantic orientation. Reflect on your experiences: Do you experience romantic attraction? Do you desire romantic relationships? How do you feel about romantic gestures? This assessment can help guide your self-reflection, but remember that labels are personal tools—use them if they feel right, and don't worry if they don't.
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