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Asexual Self-Assessment Calculator
A respectful self-reflection tool to explore your experiences with sexual attraction
Assessment Questions
1. How do you feel about physical touch and physical intimacy?
2. The last time you had a crush on someone:
3. When your friends point out someone who's attractive:
4. When other people talk about wanting to have sex:
5. What do you imagine when picturing a future relationship?
6. When your friends talk about their latest hookup or crush, how do you feel?
7. Does the idea of sex make you uncomfortable?
8. If you could have a romantic relationship without sex, you'd feel:
9. How does the idea of dating make you feel?
10. When someone asks you who your celebrity crush is:
11. If someone asked for your number because they were attracted to you, how would you react?
12. Why did you decide to take this quiz?
13. What's your biggest fear in a relationship?
14. Would you be happy if you and your partner never had sex?
15. Do you identify with ace characters in movies, books, and TV shows?
16. Could you see yourself labeling yourself as asexual on social media?
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Understanding Asexuality
Valid Orientation
Asexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation
Spectrum Experience
Asexuality exists on a spectrum with many variations
Not a Choice
Sexual orientation is innate, not chosen
Can Have Relationships
Asexual people can have fulfilling romantic relationships
About Asexuality
What is Asexuality?
Asexuality (often abbreviated as "ace") is a sexual orientation characterized by experiencing little to no sexual attraction to others. It exists on a spectrum, and asexual individuals may have varying feelings about sex, romance, and intimacy.
The Asexual Spectrum
- •Demisexual: Experiencing sexual attraction only after forming a strong emotional bond
- •Graysexual: Experiencing sexual attraction rarely or under specific circumstances
- •Aceflux: Experiencing fluctuating levels of sexual attraction
- •Cupiosexual: Not experiencing sexual attraction but desiring a sexual relationship
Common Misconceptions
❌ Myth: Asexuality is a choice
âś“ Reality: Like all sexual orientations, asexuality is not a choice. It's a natural variation in human sexuality.
❌ Myth: Asexual people can't fall in love
âś“ Reality: Many asexual people experience romantic attraction and have fulfilling romantic relationships. Romantic and sexual attraction are separate.
❌ Myth: Asexuality is caused by trauma
âś“ Reality: Asexuality is a valid orientation, not a result of trauma or a medical condition that needs to be "fixed."
Asexuality and the LGBTQ+ Community
Asexual individuals are valued members of the LGBTQ+ community. The "A" in LGBTQIA+ stands for asexual (as well as aromantic and agender). While asexuality may not receive as much visibility as other orientations, it is equally valid and deserving of recognition and support.
Many asexual people face unique challenges, including:
- Invisibility and lack of representation in media and society
- Pressure to engage in sexual activity to "prove" their orientation
- Difficulty finding partners who respect their boundaries
- Misconceptions that asexuality is a phase or medical problem
If you identify as asexual or think you might be on the ace spectrum, know that you are not alone. There are supportive communities, resources, and allies ready to support you on your journey of self-discovery and acceptance.
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