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Gay Self-Assessment Calculator
A thoughtful self-reflection tool to explore your feelings and identity
Self-Reflection Questions
Important Disclaimer: This is a self-reflection tool, not a diagnostic test. Sexual orientation is personal and complex. Only you can determine your identity. Take your time and be honest with yourself.
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📚 Understanding Sexual Orientation
Sexual orientation is about who you're attracted to emotionally, romantically, and/or sexually.
It exists on a spectrum and can be fluid for some people over time.
Being gay typically means being attracted to people of the same gender.
There's no "right" age to know your orientation. Some people know early, others discover it later in life.
🌈 Support Resources
The Trevor Project
Crisis support for LGBTQ+ youth
1-866-488-7386
PFLAG
Support for LGBTQ+ people and families
It Gets Better Project
Stories and support from the community
GLAAD
LGBTQ+ media advocacy and resources
💡 Key Points
Only you can define your identity
It's okay to question and explore
You don't need to label yourself right away
Being gay is natural and valid
Support communities are available
Understanding Your Identity
What Does It Mean to Be Gay?
Being gay typically means experiencing romantic, emotional, and sexual attraction primarily or exclusively to people of the same gender. However, human sexuality is diverse and complex, existing on a spectrum rather than in rigid categories.
Common Questions
- •Is it just a phase? For most people, sexual orientation is a lasting part of identity, not a phase.
- •Can I choose? Sexual orientation isn't a choice; it's an inherent aspect of who you are.
- •What if I'm confused? Confusion is normal. Take your time to understand yourself.
The Spectrum of Sexuality
Gay/Lesbian: Attracted to the same gender
Bisexual: Attracted to more than one gender
Pansexual: Attracted to people regardless of gender
Asexual: Limited or no sexual attraction
Questioning: Exploring and uncertain about orientation
Queer: Umbrella term for non-heterosexual orientations
Remember: Labels are tools to help you understand yourself, not boxes that confine you. Use what feels right, and know that it's okay to change how you identify as you learn more about yourself.
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