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Am I In Love?
Discover if your feelings are true love or something else
Love Assessment Questions
1. Gasp! Your love interest walks into the room. How are you feeling?
2. How often does this person cross your mind?
3. How have you been feeling lately?
4. A friend brings up your love interest's flaws. What's your reaction?
5. You two disagree on music preferences. Do you let it go or drive your point home?
6. You and your love interest are stuck in a remote cabin with no entertainment for a whole week. What are you thinking?
7. What's your love interest's best feature?
8. Have you ever felt like this before?
9. Your love interest asks you to take the next step—whether that's a first date, moving in, or getting married. What do you say?
10. How well do you two know each other?
11. Does this person feel like home to you?
12. Imagine this: your love interest ghosts you and moves away without warning. What's your reaction?
13. Which song lyric best describes your feelings right now?
14. Describe your feelings with a single color:
15. You catch your love interest making the moves on someone else. How are you feeling?
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Common Signs You're in Love
Constant Thoughts
They're always on your mind
Physical Reactions
Butterflies, racing heart, excitement
Feels Like Home
Complete comfort and safety with them
Acceptance
You love them, flaws and all
Prioritizing Their Happiness
Their joy brings you joy
The Science Behind Love
💥 Lust
Driven by testosterone and estrogen, creating physical attraction and desire.
✨ Attraction
Dopamine and norepinephrine create feelings of euphoria and obsessive thinking.
🤝 Attachment
Oxytocin and vasopressin foster deep bonding and long-term commitment.
Understanding Love: Lust, Attraction & Attachment
What Happens in Your Brain When You Fall in Love?
When you fall in love, unique regions of your brain light up in strange and new ways. These phenomena can change the way you think, feel, and behave. Love can include a combination of three key experiences: lust, attraction, and attachment—though each can occur independently.
💥 Lust
Driven by a desire for sexual pleasure and gratification. When someone turns you on, your body produces more sex hormones (testosterone or estrogen), making it hard to focus on anything else.
✨ Attraction
When we feel magnetically drawn to someone, our brains release dopamine and norepinephrine as a reward. These "happy chemicals" can reduce appetite and cause insomnia—explaining why you can't eat or sleep when you're attracted to someone!
🤝 Attachment
When someone becomes an important part of your life, you experience attachment. In long-term romantic relationships, attachment becomes key. Your brain releases oxytocin and vasopressin, creating deep bonds.
"Love is a smoke raised with the fume of sighs; Being purged, a fire sparkling in lovers' eyes; Being vexed, a sea nourished with loving tears. What is it else? A madness most discreet, A choking gall, and a preserving sweet."
— William Shakespeare
Love vs. Infatuation vs. Lust: What's the Difference?
| Aspect | Love | Infatuation | Lust |
|---|---|---|---|
| Duration | Long-lasting, grows over time | Short-term, fades quickly | Temporary, physical |
| Focus | Whole person (inside & out) | Idealized version | Physical attraction |
| Acceptance | Embraces flaws & imperfections | Overlooks or denies flaws | Doesn't consider personality |
| Communication | Open, honest, deep | Surface-level, selective | Minimal, mostly physical |
| Trust | Built over time, secure | Anxious, uncertain | Not a priority |
Learn More About Love
The Science of Love
Explore research on how the brain experiences love and attachment.
Read Harvard Research →Understanding Attachment
Learn about attachment styles and how they affect relationships.
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