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Lesbian Identity Self-Assessment

A thoughtful tool for exploring your feelings and attractions

Self-Reflection Questions

Answer these questions honestly based on your genuine feelings. There are no right or wrong answers— this is about understanding yourself better.

1. Have you ever gotten "butterflies" around a girl?

2. Do your close female friendships ever feel intense or kind of romantic?

3. When you imagine a future with a guy, what do you picture?

4. Who do you mainly have crushes on?

5. How do you feel about queer female characters or celebrities?

6. Do you feel romantically attracted to guys?

7. How does it feel to imagine being physically intimate with a guy?

8. How would you feel about kissing a girl?

9. Do you have friends who identify as LGBTQ+?

10. Why did you decide to take this assessment?

11. If a woman expressed attraction toward you, how would you feel?

12. How do you feel after watching or listening to queer media?

13. How would you feel if someone assumed you were a lesbian?

14. In 2 years, how likely are you to be dating someone of the same gender?

Answer all 14 questions to see your results

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Understanding Sexual Orientation

What does "lesbian" mean?

A lesbian is a woman who experiences romantic and/or sexual attraction primarily or exclusively to other women. The term can also include non-binary individuals who connect with this identity.

Sexual orientation is a spectrum

Attraction isn't always black and white. Some people experience exclusive same-gender attraction, while others experience attraction to multiple genders. Both are valid, and your feelings may evolve over time.

You're not alone

Millions of people identify as lesbian, and there's a supportive community ready to welcome you. Whether you're sure of your identity or still exploring, you belong.

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ℹ️Important Notice

This is a self-reflection tool, not a definitive diagnosis or declaration of sexual orientation.

Only you can determine your sexual orientation and identity. This assessment is meant to help you explore your feelings in a supportive, judgment-free way.

Sexual orientation can be fluid, and it's okay if your understanding of yourself changes over time.

Your privacy matters. We don't collect, store, or share your responses.