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LGBTQ+ Self-Assessment Calculator
A respectful self-reflection tool to explore your identity and feelings
Important Notice
This is a self-reflection tool, NOT a diagnostic test. Only you can determine your sexual orientation and gender identity. This assessment is meant to help you explore your feelings and thoughts in a safe, judgment-free way. Take your time, be honest with yourself, and remember that identity can be fluid and may change over time.
Self-Assessment Questions
1. Imagine a person you find attractive. Who is it?
2. How do you feel about romantic relationships?
3. If someone of the same gender expressed romantic interest, how would you respond?
4. Have you felt like exploring a sexual orientation different from what's considered 'traditional' for you?
5. Picture your future relationships. What do you see?
6. How do you feel when you see LGBTQ+ characters in media?
7. Have you ever felt attraction to more than one gender?
8. Which community do you feel most connected to?
9. How important is it for you to label your sexual orientation?
10. How do you feel about societal norms around gender identity?
11. How do you currently feel about your gender identity?
12. How would you describe your feelings about exploring your identity?
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Key LGBTQ+ Terms
A woman attracted to other women
A person attracted to people of the same sex
Attracted to more than one gender
Identifies as a different gender than assigned at birth
Umbrella term for non-heterosexual/cisgender identities
Exploring sexual orientation or gender identity
Understanding LGBTQ+ Identity
Identity is a Journey
Discovering your sexual orientation and gender identity is a personal journey that looks different for everyone. There's no "right" way to identify, and it's okay if your feelings change over time. Many people experience fluidity in their identity throughout their lives.
You're Not Alone
Millions of people identify as LGBTQ+ around the world. Whether you're just starting to question your identity or have known for years, there's a supportive community ready to welcome you. Remember that your feelings are valid, and you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity.
Take Your Time
There's no rush to label yourself or come out to others. Take all the time you need to understand your feelings and identity. Some people know from a young age, while others discover their identity later in life. Both experiences are completely normal and valid.
Seek Support
If you're questioning your identity, consider reaching out to trusted friends, family members, counselors, or LGBTQ+ support organizations. Talking to others who have gone through similar experiences can be incredibly helpful and affirming.
Remember:
- •Your identity is valid, no matter what label you choose (or don't choose)
- •It's okay to question and explore your identity at any age
- •You don't need to have had specific experiences to claim an identity
- •Identity can be fluid and may change throughout your life
- •You deserve love, respect, and acceptance for who you are
Frequently Asked Questions
How accurate is the LGBTQ+ Self-Assessment Calculator?
This is a self-reflection tool designed to help you explore your feelings and identity, not a diagnostic test. Only you can truly determine your sexual orientation and gender identity. The assessment provides insights based on your responses, but remember that identity is personal, complex, and can be fluid over time.
What does LGBTQ+ stand for?
LGBTQ+ stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer (or Questioning), and the "+" represents other identities within the spectrum, including but not limited to: pansexual, asexual, non-binary, genderqueer, intersex, and many more. It's an inclusive umbrella term for diverse sexual orientations and gender identities.
At what age can I know my sexual orientation?
There's no specific age when you "should" know your sexual orientation. Some people are aware from a young age, while others discover their identity later in life. Both experiences are completely normal and valid. Identity can also evolve throughout your life, and that's okay too. Take your time to explore your feelings without pressure.
Is it normal to question my sexuality or gender identity?
Yes, absolutely! Questioning your sexuality or gender identity is a completely normal part of self-discovery. Many people go through periods of questioning at various points in their lives. "Questioning" is even recognized as a valid identity itself. There's no rush to label yourself, and it's okay to take time to understand your feelings.
What's the difference between sexual orientation and gender identity?
Sexual orientation refers to who you're attracted to (romantically, emotionally, or sexually), such as being gay, lesbian, bisexual, or pansexual. Gender identity refers to your internal sense of your own gender—whether you identify as male, female, both, neither, or somewhere along the gender spectrum. These are two separate aspects of identity.
Do I need to label my identity?
No, labels are personal tools that can help some people understand and communicate their identity, but they're not required. Some people find comfort in specific labels, while others prefer not to use them at all. What matters most is understanding yourself and being true to your own feelings and experiences, labeled or not.
Can my sexual orientation or gender identity change over time?
Yes, for some people, identity can be fluid and may change throughout life. You might discover new aspects of yourself as you grow and have new experiences. This doesn't mean your previous identity was "wrong"—it simply means you're evolving in your self-understanding. Sexual fluidity and gender fluidity are recognized and valid experiences.
Where can I find support if I'm questioning my identity?
There are many resources available! Organizations like The Trevor Project (crisis support for LGBTQ+ youth), PFLAG (support for families and individuals), the Human Rights Campaign, and local LGBTQ+ community centers offer support, education, and safe spaces. Consider talking to trusted friends, family members, school counselors, or therapists who are LGBTQ+-affirming.
What if my assessment results don't match how I feel?
Trust your feelings over any assessment result. This tool is meant to facilitate self-reflection, not define you. If the results don't resonate with your lived experience and feelings, that's completely okay. Only you know your true identity. The assessment is just one tool among many for self-exploration.
How do I come out to others about my LGBTQ+ identity?
Coming out is a deeply personal decision, and there's no right or wrong way to do it. Come out when you feel safe and ready—there's no rush. Start with people you trust, prepare for various reactions, and prioritize your safety and well-being. Remember that coming out is a continuous process, not a one-time event. Resources like The Trevor Project and PFLAG offer coming out guides and support.
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