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Do I Like Him? Self-Assessment
Discover your true feelings with this comprehensive relationship assessment
Assessment Questions
0 / 12 answered💡 How to use: Answer each question honestly based on your true feelings and behaviors. There are no right or wrong answers—this is about understanding your own emotions.
1How often do you think about him?
2You're going to a party and know he'll be there, so you:
3Do you have his number?
4The weekend is here. Do you make plans with him?
5How would you describe your relationship?
6You have fantastic news! Who do you share it with?
7What's the first thing you think about in the morning?
8Do you know his birthday?
9How does he make you feel?
10He walks into the room, and you can't help but:
11Have you ever imagined the two of you together?
12What do your friends say about the two of you?
⚠️Important Disclaimer
This is a self-reflection tool, not a diagnostic test. This assessment is designed to help you explore and understand your feelings, but it cannot tell you definitively how you feel or what you should do.
Your emotions are complex and personal. Only you can truly know your feelings. Use this assessment as a starting point for self-reflection, not as a final answer.
If you're experiencing confusion about your feelings or relationships, consider talking to trusted friends, family members, or a counselor who can provide personalized support.
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Score Interpretation Guide
0-18 Points
Not really into him
19-30 Points
Friend zone territory
31-42 Points
Definitely crushing
43-48 Points
Head over heels
Understanding Your Feelings
Trust your gut feelings—they often know before your mind does
Take your time to understand your emotions—there's no rush
Talk to trusted friends who can offer perspective
Be honest with yourself about what you truly want
What to Do When You Like Someone
Smile
If he makes you happy, show it! Laugh, smile, and be genuine when he's around. This helps him feel comfortable and shows your warm personality.
Make Eye Contact
Looking into his eyes shows confidence and interest. Maintain his gaze while talking and don't look away—the eyes are the window to the soul.
Lean In
Show interest through body language. Sit next to him, let your shoulders or knees brush naturally, and position yourself to show you're engaged.
Ask Questions
Get to know him better with open-ended questions about his interests, favorite memories, and passions. Show genuine curiosity about who he is.
Be Yourself
The most important rule: be authentically you. Let him see your quirks, interests, and personality. If he tries to change you, he's not worth your time.
Start Conversations
Don't wait for him to always initiate. Send that text, start that conversation, or invite him to hang out. Show that you're interested and confident.
Understanding Different Types of Attraction
💜 Platonic Feelings
You genuinely care about him as a friend. You enjoy his company, want the best for him, and value the friendship—but there's no romantic or physical attraction involved.
Signs: You think of him like a brother, feel no butterflies or nervousness, and can easily imagine him dating someone else without feeling jealous.
💗 Romantic Crush
You have genuine romantic feelings—butterflies, daydreaming about him, hoping he notices you, and feeling excited when you're together or about to see him.
Signs: You get nervous around him, think about him constantly, dress up hoping he'll notice, and imagine romantic scenarios together.
❤️ Deep Connection
Beyond just a crush—you have a strong emotional bond, trust him completely, prioritize his wellbeing, and can't imagine your life without him in it.
Signs: He's your first person to share news with, you support each other through everything, and you feel safe and comfortable being your true self around him.
💙 Enjoying Attention
Sometimes we like the idea of someone liking us more than we actually like them. You enjoy the attention and validation but don't have genuine romantic interest.
Signs: You're interested when he shows attention but lose interest quickly, you don't think about him when he's not around, and you're more focused on how he makes you feel about yourself than on who he is as a person.
Helpful Resources About Relationships and Feelings
Understanding Your Emotions
Learn more about recognizing and understanding romantic feelings, differentiating between types of attraction, and emotional self-awareness.
Psychology Today: Understanding Crushes →Effective Communication
Tips for expressing your feelings, starting meaningful conversations, and building deeper connections with the people you care about.
HelpGuide: Communication in Relationships →Flirting and Connection
Learn healthy and effective ways to show interest, flirt authentically, and build romantic connections that feel comfortable for everyone.
Psychology Today: How to Flirt Effectively →Building Healthy Relationships
Guidance on establishing healthy relationship patterns, recognizing red flags, and understanding what makes relationships thrive.
Today: Understanding Love and Relationships →💡 Remember: Your feelings are valid, whatever they may be. There's no timeline for figuring out how you feel about someone, and it's okay if your feelings change or evolve over time. Be patient and kind with yourself as you navigate your emotions.
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