Dating Theory Calculator

Use the 37% rule and optimal stopping theory to find your perfect partner

Your Dating Parameters

How many dates you go on each week

How long you plan to actively date

Only the absolute best (top 1)
The perfect soulmate
One of the top 3
Excellent compatibility
One of the top 5
Very good match
One of the top 10
Good compatibility
0% (Everyone accepts)50% (Very selective)

20% (Above average)

Your Optimal Dating Strategy

The 37% Rule Strategy

104
Total Dates
Over 12 months
38
Dates to Reject
First 37% for evaluation

Your Strategy:

Phase 1: Date the first 38 people and reject them all (learning phase)

Phase 2: Choose the next person who is better than anyone from Phase 1

Goal: Find one of the top 5

1.1%
Success Rate
Chance of finding one of the top 5
70.2%
Risk of Being Alone
Chance of not finding anyone suitable

Probability of Ending Up With Top Candidates

#1 best
0.2%
#2 best
0.2%
#3 best
0.2%
#4 best
0.2%
#5 best
0.1%

Example Scenario

The Classic 37% Rule

Scenario: You plan to date for 1 year, going on 2 dates per week

Total dates: ~104 dates

Strategy: Reject the first 38 dates, then choose the next person better than all previous

Success rate: ~37% chance of finding the absolute best partner

Flexible Approach

Tip: Looking for "top 5" instead of "the best" increases success rate to ~69%

Risk reduction: Lower standards slightly = much higher chance of success

Real-world advice: Perfect is the enemy of good in dating

The 37% Rule

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Reject first 37% of candidates to learn your preferences

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Choose next person better than all previous ones

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Based on mathematical optimal stopping theory

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Maximizes probability of finding the best match

Dating Strategy Tips

Learn Phase

Use early dates to understand what you really want

Decision Phase

Have clear criteria for what "better" means to you

Flexibility

Consider "top 5" instead of "perfect" for better odds

Mathematical Foundation

Optimal Stopping Theory
Secretary problem solution
1/e ≈ 37%
Euler's number constant
Maximizes Expected Value
Best long-term strategy

Understanding the Dating Theory

The Secretary Problem

Also known as the optimal stopping problem, this mathematical theory was originally designed to help hire the best secretary from a pool of candidates. The challenge: you must decide immediately after each interview, and you can't go back to previous candidates.

Why 37%?

  • •The number 1/e (≈ 0.3679) is mathematically optimal
  • •Balances learning vs. decision making
  • •Maximizes probability of choosing the best option

Real-World Applications

House Hunting

View 37% of available properties to set standards, then buy the next one that exceeds them.

Job Searching

Interview at several companies to understand the market, then accept the next better offer.

Investment Timing

Observe market patterns before making investment decisions.

Important: This is a mathematical model. Real relationships involve emotions, compatibility, and factors that can't be quantified. Use this as guidance, not gospel!